If you are anything like me, you are often surprised to hear how people react to you on first meeting. And to overcome this, many of us tend to overdo the warmth, humour and trying to fit in, or go the other way, and try to be as unobtrusive as possible.
Neither of them feel natural and neither are sustainable so it is worth spending some time preparing for the first impressions you create on the first day of your new job.
Everybody talks about how important a good CV is but how do you define good?
Clearly a good track record with excellent references is key, but so is the way it is put together.
1. Take the time to do a personalized covering letter for each company
2. Set it up as a standard with some career highlights
3. Align some of your skills with their requirements as per their job specification
4. It takes time, but personalise your cv for every opportunity
Start of a new year, so first impressions are top of mind. How do we create the right first impression when job hunting? Interviewers are just like the rest of us and their initial impression of the applicant may change the whole flavour of the interview.
So how do you create that great first impression? Research?
These days, it is the expectation that the applicant will know what the company does, understand the basics of the job requirement and have a few well chosen questions to add to the discussion.
Workplace bullying is widespread, that is very clear from research, reading and conversations, I have had over the past few years.
I have also received mails and responses to articles, which indicate bullying in the workplace is ongoing. While there are many, many definitions, case studies and examples, Tim Field's (footnote) is a very clear one.
Being bullied is not about one isolated incident, it is about consistent negative behaviour that damages self image to a point where the bullied leaves, and the bully remains, sometimes with greater status.
Bullying remains a very emotive issue. I have a few friends who openly admit that they were bullies at school, and that they didn't mean any real harm, and were "just teasing". Comments that people overreact, and that the victims often bring it on themselves are also made.
It is a reality that the bullied person's reaction can lead to further bullying, or their lack of reaction could move the bullies to a new target.
You might have noticed that some bullies are quite charismatic, may be natural leaders, or, very often, lead through their followers fear of being turned on next.
What is overwork? When is it bullying? When does the job requirement tip from high expectations to unreasonable requirements?
Since I first published this article, part of a series on workplace bullying, over a year ago, I have had regular input from readers, sharing their experiences and asking for advice. Many have shared that it began slowly, built up, and felt irreversible.
"Never judge a book by its cover" - well, eBooks have certainly changed this, for me, because its not about the cover, its about the content, the advertorial and the recommendations of other readers.
When I was a teenager, I read a book that had a profound impact on me - A Patch of Blue, by Elizabeth Kata.
The story is about a young white blind girl who meets a black man and falls in love. The realisation of how much of our judgement of people is based on their externals, was both depressing and empowering.